20 November 2010

What do you do if it's not yet too late?

In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people.
Ones with whom you shared something special,
ones who will always mean something.

There's the one you first kissed,
the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to,
the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're with,
and the one that got away..

Who is the one that got away?
I guess it's that person with whom everything was great,
everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong.

There was no fault in the person,
there was no flaw in the chemistry,
but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone,
finding a longtime partner that is,
does not lie merely in the other person.

I can actually argue that an equal part,
or maybe even the greater part,
has to do with the matter of timing.

It has to do with you being ready to settle down and
commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little
niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it?
When you're not ready to commit in that mature manner,
it doesn't matter whom you're with,
it just doesn't work.

Small problems become big;
inconsequentials become dealbreakers
simply because you're not ready and it shows.

It's not that you and the person you're with are no good;
it's just that it's not yet right,
and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you're ready.
You really are.
And when this happens you'll be ready to settle down
with someone.

He or she may not be the most perfect,
they might not be the brightest stars of romance to
ever have burned in your life,
but it'll work because you're ready.

It'll work because it's the right time and you'll make it work.
And it will make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things,
and you find yourself to be a different person.

Things are different, your approach is different,
you finally understand who you are and what you want,
and you've become ready because the time has truly

And mind you, there's no telling when this day will come.
Hopefully you're single but you could be in a long-term relationship,
you could be married with three kids,
it doesn't matter.

All you know is that you've changed, and for some reason,
the one that got away, is the person you think about.

You'll think about them because you'll wonder,
"What if they were here today?"
You'll wonder,
"What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?"

That's what the one that got away is.

The biggest "What if?" you'll have in your life.
 If you're married,
you'll just have to accept the fact that the one that
got away, got away.

Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your
marriage is,
this can happen to the best of us.

 But hopefully you're mature enough to realize that
you're already with the one you're with
and this is just another test of your commitment,
one which will just strengthen your marriage when you
get past it.

 Sure, you'll think about him/her every so often, but it's alright.
It's never nice to live with a "might have been,"but it happens.

 Maybe the one that got away is the one who is already married.
In which case it's the same thing.

You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person
will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips
in the future,
when you're old and gray and reminiscing.

But if neither of that is the case, then it's different.
What do you do if it's not yet too late?

Find him, find her.

Because the very existence of a "one that got away"
means that you'll always wonder,
what if you got that one?
Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie,
it doesn't matter if you've dropped in from nowhere.

You'd be surprised,
you just might be the "one that got away" as well for
the person who is your "the one that got away".

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it wont make
a difference.

If the timing is finally right,
it will all just fall into place somehow and you know.

I'm thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end,to be able to say to someone,
"Hey you! You're the one that almost got away".

"it is only with the heart one can see rightly.
What is essential is invisible to the eye."


LOVE when your eyes meet across a crowded room
LUST when your tongues meet across a crowded room
MARRIAGE when your belt won't meet around your waist, and you don't care

LOVE when intercourse is called making love
LUST all other times
MARRIAGE what's intercourse?

LOVE when you argue over how many children to have
LUST When you argue over who gets the wet spot
MARRIAGE when you argue over money

LOVE when you share everything you own
LUST when you think twice about giving your partner bus money
MARRIAGE when the bank owns everything

LOVE when it doesn't matter if you don't climax
LUST when the relationship is over if you don't climax
MARRIAGE what's a climax?

LOVE when you phone each other just to say "Hi"
LUST when you phone each other just to organize sex
MARRIAGE when you phone each other to find out what time your son's game starts

LOVE when you write poems about your partner
LUST when all you write is your phone number
MARRIAGE when all you write are check's

LOVE when you show concern for your partners' feelings
LUST when you couldn't give a rip
MARRIAGE when your only concern is what's on TV

LOVE when your farewell is "I love you darling"
LUST when your farewell is "So, same time next week?"
MARRIAGE when your farewell is silent

LOVE when you are proud to be seen in public with your partner
LUST when you only ever see each other in the bedroom
MARRIAGE when you never see each other awake

LOVE when your heart flutters every time you see them
LUST when your groin twitches every time you see them
MARRIAGE when your wallet empties every time you see them

LOVE when nobody else matters
LUST when nobody else knows
MARRIAGE when everybody else matters and you don't care who knows

LOVE when all the songs on the radio describe exactly how you feel
LUST when it's just the same mushy old crap
MARRIAGE when you never listen to music

LOVE when breaking up is something you try not to think about
LUST when staying together is something you try not to think about
MARRIAGE when just getting through today is your only thought

LOVE when you're interested in everything your partner does
LUST when you're only interested in one thing
MARRIAGE when you're not interested in what your partner does and the one thing you're interested in is your golf score